• What is relationship abuse?

    Abuse and/or violence between two people in a relationship can happen to anyone, anywhere and at any time.

    An abusive relationship isn’t just physical violence, it’s also when someone purposefully controls, manipulates or threatens another person. It could be something as ‘harmless’ as monitoring where you spend your money or your social media accounts.

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Abuse doesn’t have a type

There are a lot of stereotypes and misconceptions about what abuse is and who it can affect. The reality is that anyone can be affected no matter who they are, where they come from or what they do: neighbours, friends, family members, colleagues or you. The best thing you can do is understand the warning signs and learn what to do if you think you or a loved one could be in an abusive relationship. Learn more about the warning signs of relationship abuse below or get in touch now to see how we can help.

Know the signs

When it comes to understanding whether or not you or a friend are in an abusive relationship, always trust your gut. Chances are if it doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t. However, here are some of the common signs we recommend you look out for.

Does someone close to you:

  • Threaten or humiliate you, alone or in front of others?
  • Damage your belongings? 
  • Control what you do?
  • Control who you talk to and what you do online?
  • Control how you spend or access money?
  • Follow or visit you without your permission?
  • Criticise you and constantly put you down?
  • Blame their culture, religion or personal problems as an excuse for their behaviour toward you?
  • Push, bully, slap, kick, punch or seriously hurt you?
  • Force you to have sex with them?
  • Force you to make decisions you don’t want to?
  • Make you fear your safety?

Does your friend or loved one fit any of these descriptions?

  • Low self-esteem
  • Extremely apologetic
  • Agitation
  • Anxiety
  • Developing a drug or alcohol problem
  • Symptoms of depression
  • Loss of interest in daily activities
  • Talking about or attempting suicide
  • ‘Walking on eggshells’ around their partner 
  • Excessive calls or texts from their partner checking where they are
  • Frequent bruises or injuries with a weak or inconsistent explanation, e.g. black eyes, broken bones, red marks on their neck, sprained wrists

Abuse affects everyone differently, so, even if you don’t think any of these signs apply to you, if you feel something isn’t right give our team call. Similarly, if you or someone you know are experiencing these signs, get in touch with our team and we’ll be there to support you every step of the way.

“What if I’m responsible for these signs?”

If you think you may be responsible for making someone close to you feel this way, we can help you too. We have a specialist team that can support you to break the cycle of abusive behaviour, and learn to demonstrate love in a safe and healthy way. We’re not here to judge you, we’re here to help.

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